When I learned about the Enneagram and the pitfalls and relationship building it came to me: Oh, the Enneagram type 3 – we tend to treat relationships like a project. I realized maybe that is why all my past relationships at until that point failed. I gave them a timeline and KPI to meet.
Cindy Leong from Singapore is an Enneagram Master Trainer and Relationship coach.
She helps people make sense of their professional and personal relationships and relates to type 3.
Cindy Leong is the founder of the Relationship Studio and the Enneagram Academy and is the author of four books.
She is also a Relationship Expert on the radioshow Mediacorp Class95 FM.
Interview with Cindy Leong
In this episode Cindy Leong is a guest in Enneagram Insights podcast.
Flemming Christensen is talking to her about her Enneagram Journey and visions for the future.
Listen to this conversation and hear about:
✔️ Cindy Leong´s personal Enneagram journey and how a divorce led to an inner journey and how she ended up in California to be taught by Claudio Naranjo for nine days on a mountain top.
✔️ About relating to type 3 and learning how to be vulnerable and authentic and not to see relationships as projects.
✔️ To accept that people grow at different paces and different types are motivated by different things. The knowledge of the Enneagram has helped Cindy Leong to to let go and enjoy the journey by understanding that you can be loved for who you are – not what you do.
✔️ How Cindy Leong ended up founding her own Enneagram Academy in Singapore to share her knowledge.
✔️ About Cindy Leong´s books are about happy marriages, challenges for women in relationships, a guide to the Enneagram and a children’s book about differences in us as people. And how the essence is about Relationships, self growth and development.
✔️ On hosting a conference on the importance of team dynamics and inclusion and diversity. And why that is important in today´s leadership.
Quotes from the interview
People are not projects
Cindy Leong:
“When I learned about the Enneagram and the pitfalls and relationship building it came to me: Oh, the Enneagram type 3 – we tend to treat relationships like a project.
I realized maybe that is why all my past relationships at until that point failed. I gave them a timeline and KPI to meet.
And I’ll get impatient when there’s no growth, when it’s not going anywhere and lose interest in the project.
That was always my pattern since young relating to people. And I realized that’s not working out for me.
I began to see relationships as a journey. Not an end goal. There shouldn’t be an end, you know, there shouldn’t be KPIs to meet.
It is all about going through precious moments together, the highs and the lows.
I can’t force people to be like me. I learned that different types grow at different pace and different types are motivated by different things.
So I just got to let them be, not force them into the mold.
And that was when I realized that I got to let go – and sometimes even let nature takes its course and just enjoy the journey.”
https://theenneagramacademy.com/about/
https://relationshipstudio.sg/
https://www.flemmingchristensen.com/
